|Posted on July 19, 2016 at 12:00 AM|
Each person brings a set of hopes and dreams to the first therapy session. He or she is asked to take a chance and share what a better life would look like. For some, that means worrying less, sleeping better, and laughing more. For others, it means finding a place to learn about themselves and trying out new ways of relating to others. What I have come to notice is that despite having a goal for seeking therapy, few people know just what to expect from therapy or understand how the therapy process works.
The therapy process takes place within a relationship between the client and the therapist. For me, that means that my clients get to learn something about me, but mostly, they get to feel what it is like to have someone really wanting to understand them and work beside them as they figure out the next steps to reaching their goals. Through the relationship I create with each client, each client is able to sort through ideas, gain insights, learn skills to manage problems or symptoms, and become empowered to direct their own path to wellness.
Sometimes I sit with clients and see them struggling with feelings of inadequacy or self-blame because they feel they “haven’t done enough to get better.” Sometimes I sit with clients who feel that I have not done enough to “solve the problem” or have not told them what to do. For clients struggling to make progress, it is important to remember that change is a process.
The process of change takes time. Therapy is hard work. Being vulnerable and taking chances to act in new ways is scary…but, the process of therapy can lead to lasting change and personal growth. The process of therapy takes time and sometimes takes unexpected turns as goals are revised, as life transitions take place, and as people experience new events. Learning more about ourselves, recognizing our strengths and weaknesses, and working to improve our lives is a courageous endeavor and requires us, therapists and those seeking therapy alike, to trust the process.
Categories: Therapy and Counseling